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#Anger #Calm #EmotionalIntelligence #Emotions #Thoughts #Mindfulness Do you ever get really  angry ? And when it happens, especially at work, are the consequences good or bad? I'm not talking about the competitive zeal you might get when a competitor beats you out for a lucrative sale and you feel determined to beat them out next time around. I'm talking about the rage that can take over when someone treats you unfairly or insults you, or even  cuts you off in traffic . That kind of anger can leave you feeling helpless, useless, self-pitying, and unable to  focus  on the tasks at hand. Wouldn't it be great if you could somehow quiet that anger when it first arises, so you could think logically about how to respond? Well, there is a way, and it comes from recognizing the truth about anger. Although it is a feeling, it results directly from what you're thinking, and from the meaning, you derive from the words or acts that have ticked you off. To prove it, psycholo

  #Emotions #HealthyRelationships #Communication Research has shown that suppressing your emotions pretty well shuts down communication within that relationship. Let's chat about what the findings from one study might mean for your relationship. James Gross, a scientist who studies emotion, found that when we try to suppress emotion, this is what happens: • It's very hard to do - basically it doesn't work. We have to work very hard to shut an emotion down once it is up and running, and in the process, we often get more agitated and tense. This is especially true in close relationships when the trigger for the emotion, the other person, is still there giving us signals that get us all fired up. • Emotion doesn't stay inside our skin. When we try to shut feelings off, the people we are relating to also get more and more tense. When we are denying our feelings, our partners probably get tense because our faces register our feelings way faster than the thinking part of the 

#Emotions #Away #LGBTQ #Slack #JenRubio #StewartButterfield By Zoe Schiffer  -theverge.com Avery felt out of place at Away. Like many of the executives at the popular direct-to-consumer luggage brand, she’d gone to an Ivy League college, worked at a popular startup, and honed an intense work ethic that set her apart from the pack. But the higher-ups, who were almost all white and straight, still never gave her the time of day. “It was very clear who was in the clique,” she says. Originally, Avery had joined because of the brand’s popularity — the hard-shell suitcases were everywhere: in overheads, luggage carousels, subway ads — but she also wanted to believe in the mission. Away promised a lifestyle of inclusion and nice vacations. It was also founded by two women (one a person of color) who sought to run a globally minded business. “In my mind, it’s a trivial product but the brand is more than just luggage,” Avery says. “It’s about travel.” As the months went by and she

1)  Accept  the negative feelings. The key to this is not to deny what we are feeling, but rather to  lean into  our feelings, even if they are painful. Take a moment to be mindful and narrate: "I'm feeling anxious right now," or, "This situation is making me tense." Hang in there with unpleasant feelings at least long enough to acknowledge them. This is the gist of  emotion coaching  kids: We help them label what they are feeling, and we validate that their feelings are okay. With younger kids, the challenge is helping them understand that while bad feelings are always all right, bad behavior never is. Be crystal clear about this. For example, it is totally okay that your child is feeling jealous and hateful toward her sister. At the same time, it is never okay to hit her. 2)  Problem solve . What did you learn from that embarrassing situation? What can you do to improve a difficult situation tomorrow? Who else can help