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The Price of Perfection

#Perfection #CopingStrategies #Mindfulness #AllorNothingThinking #Catastrophizing, Broadly speaking, perfectionism is a personality style where people set exceptionally high standards for themselves in order to achieve perfection. However, the motive behind perfectionism is not the achievement of perfection, but rather, the avoidance of failure. More simply speaking, perfectionism is really a type of anxiety. Anxiety is adaptive and evolutionarily speaking, protects us from danger. In cavemen days, anxiety helped our ancestors flee from predators. However, in modern days, rarely do we need to flee from predators. Consequently, maladaptive anxiety is increasingly common and acts as a faulty alarm system- alerting us to danger as if there were a predator chasing us when actually we are not in real danger. In regards to perfectionism, those with this type of anxiety are so afraid to fail, they go to great lengths to avoid the possibility of failure. Underneath, an alarm system is g...

How to Calm Your Own Anger in 60 Seconds or Less.

#Anger #Calm #EmotionalIntelligence #Emotions #Thoughts #Mindfulness Do you ever get really  angry ? And when it happens, especially at work, are the consequences good or bad? I'm not talking about the competitive zeal you might get when a competitor beats you out for a lucrative sale and you feel determined to beat them out next time around. I'm talking about the rage that can take over when someone treats you unfairly or insults you, or even  cuts you off in traffic . That kind of anger can leave you feeling helpless, useless, self-pitying, and unable to  focus  on the tasks at hand. Wouldn't it be great if you could somehow quiet that anger when it first arises, so you could think logically about how to respond? Well, there is a way, and it comes from recognizing the truth about anger. Although it is a feeling, it results directly from what you're thinking, and from the meaning, you derive from the words or acts that have ticked you off. To prove it, ...

The Ripple Effect of Common Courtesy

#Buddhism #Karma #Compassion #Meditation #Mindfulness From the Buddhist point of view, there is always a relationship between cause and effect; this notion is expressed in various teachings about Karma. As we interact with the world, we plant various seeds that will ripen and grow either right away, soon enough or sometime in the future. If we look at nature, small seeds can have big results; for example, the tiny acorn, given the right causes and conditions, can produce the mighty oak tree. In a similar way, in the world of human interaction, small seeds can sometimes come together to produce large-scale results. This is why, if we want to create a good world for ourselves and others, attention to detail can sometimes trump having a huge vision. In that attention to detail, if we can lean toward courtesy and consideration for others, there is no doubt that we will begin to generate a more positive overall outcome. If we manifest grasping, aggression and ignorance in the ...

Staying Grounded in a Time of Anxiety

When  anxiety  hits, it can make you feel disoriented as though everything is spinning out of control. You might feel immobilized, not sure where to turn – or engage in acts that you think will reduce the sense of confusion, but they only end up making things worse. People may tell you to “stay grounded,” but what does it mean to be grounded? I see it as being aware of your body and present in your surroundings. But how can you get there when your mind has whipped you up in a state for anxiety and confusion? I have written a lot about the impact of  attention  on our experience. Our focus has a significant effect on our thoughts and feelings. Controlling our attention plays a crucial role in  managing social anxiety  and  dealing with unwanted attention from others . You can also use your attention to deal with anxiety and calm yourself down. Remembering that you have control over where you put your attention is key to managing your anxiety. ...

Go Easy on Yourself, a New Wave of Research Urges

#CDC #DepartmentofPublicHealth #mindfulness #selfesteem #selfcompassion Do you treat yourself as well as you treat your friends and family? By Tara Parker-Pope - NY Times That simple question is the basis for a burgeoning new area of psychological research called self-compassion — how kindly people view themselves. People who find it easy to be supportive and understanding to others, it turns out, often score surprisingly low on self-compassion tests, berating themselves for perceived failures like being overweight or not exercising. The research suggests that giving ourselves a break and accepting our imperfections may be the first step toward better health. People who score high on tests of self-compassion have less depression and anxiety and tend to be happier and more optimistic. Preliminary data suggest that self-compassion can even influence how much we eat and may help some people lose weight. This idea does seem at odds with the advice...

6 Ways To Unsnarl The Emotional Traffic Jam In Your Brain

#CopingStrategies #Stress #Anxiety #holidaystress #Mindfulness  Life is complicated. The daily pressures of meeting deadlines, paying bills and keeping house -- with or without a spouse or children -- can often times be daunting. Sometimes one can be exhausted before getting out of bed in the morning. Life on life's terms. Suiting up and showing up can be a great effort, and it's twice as difficult if your loved one is struggling with substance abuse issues. So, before your day gets going and when the morning is still in a quiet hum, here are some concepts that I have suggested to my clients and that I call upon before things might spin out of control: A Quick Gratitude Checklist We have all heard how important it is to acknowledge and be grateful for the things in our life. We've heard it so much that it's almost annoying, and becoming long in the tooth of its repetitive coolness. However, if it's not broken, don't fix it -- which is why good ideas wil...

"You were made to live a good life and that's what I believe" Mary Mary- Go Get It

#GoGetIt  #GospelMusic  #MaryMary  #Faith #Gospel  #Meditation #Mindfulness,  Everybody has a season and I Believe this one's Yours So hit the floor say a prayer start working you got to do something. It's alright to crawl before you walk, it's alright to walk before you run. But if you wanna get what you never got gotta do something that you never done.